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How to Avoid Pre-Wedding Stress

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Planning a wedding can be stressful and even downright unpleasant. So if you want to plan a great wedding but want to keep your wits about you, here are some tips that should help.

Nobody wants to become a Bridezilla while planning their wedding, and you don’t have to become one to pull off your dream event. Yes, wedding planning is stressful, but that doesn’t mean you can’t minimize the complexity of the whole thing.

With these tips, you can plan a beautiful and unforgettable wedding without losing your head in the process:

Don’t expect perfection

The media continues to lead women to believe that weddings should look straight out of a magazine to be memorable. And with so many images of happy couples with perfect wedding backdrops, it can be difficult to believe that you don’t have to achieve the same things. Difficult, yes. But not impossible.

Before you start the wedding process, take the time to think about what you want and not what other people expect from you. Instill in yourself that perfection is not a requirement, and what matters is that you enjoy the wedding planning process instead of resenting it.

Make a rough draft with your spouse only

Sit down with your future spouse and talk about things that you want for the wedding. Do you want to have a small wedding venue in Kansas City or a big one in Los Angeles? What color scheme do you want to have for the reception? How many guests will fit in the budget?

As much as possible, do the planning alone with your fiance, especially if you two are the ones paying for the wedding. Listening to the opinions of friends and family can be pretty insightful, but having many other people tell you what you should have at your wedding can become stressful fast.

Stick to your plan and make minimal changes

Making constant changes to your wedding plan can cause delays and unnecessary expenses, thus amping up the pressure on you. Avoid the stress by making minimal changes to your original plan and not listening to what others say. Expect that there will be a lot of opinions and suggestions coming your way, but always remember that you don’t have to listen to them if you don’t want to.

Pay attention to what your fiance wants, too

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A wedding is an event celebrating two people, not just one. Make sure your partner’s wishes are considered, as well, so that arguments can be prevented in case they don’t like something in the plan.

Take care of yourself

Everybody wants to look the best for their wedding, and that involves losing weight most of the time. If you’re going to lose weight before the wedding, do it with regular exercise and a healthy diet. Avoid shortcuts (i.e., fad diets, starving yourself, diet pills). You may lose the weight before the wedding day, but the stress of planning paired with poor health is a recipe for disaster.


Planning a wedding is a rough business if you don’t know how to manage your stress well. Luckily, there are a lot of ways you can avoid burning out when planning your big day, and you can start with the ones we mentioned above.

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